Marriage Care / Care for Spouses with Secondary Stress

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Depending on the job... it's inevitable.

You knew it was coming, you were determined to make every day count until duty called.


The stresses of being alone, or pulling double-duty as a solo parent take their toll.

Parenting, career, home, the kids schedules, bills, car repairs, home management...

you did it all, while waiting, worrying, and missing them.


After months of extended seperation, you expected a honeymoon re-union season.

Instead, you might find yourself having to walk on egg-shells, 

dealing with unwanted conflicts and tension,

acting as a go-between with the kids to prevent blows ups and flare-ups,

and managing relationships with relatives until things settle down.


It may seem like the person you wake up with is a stranger now..

moody, cold, distant, quiet, irritable, edgy...  

You wonder when you will get back to " being us" again, or if you are even on their radar.

They seem to be absorbed, detached and un-available.

We encourage you to be extra gracious and merciful during this fragile time.



God's will for your marriage is unity, harmony, and one-ness,

but your warrior needs time to heal from everything they have just endured, and may soon have to endure again.

Know that an oppressed soul needs to be set free before things can return to normal. 

Love is patient, love is kind, love hopes all things.

Let us help you as you as you regroup, repair, rebuild, and reconnect -- together.







....TGM salutes America's home front heroe's....

and we thank you for the

sacrifices you and your family have made for our nation.


Secondary stress for a warriors spouse goes way beyond the worrying, anxiety and loneliness during deployment.

When your loved one finally returns from war, your marriage, family life and home atmosphere

may not be normal again for a long time.

Or it may never be exactly the way it was before, as you find, accept, embrace and master your new normal.

God is still with you through the fire, and through this journey.

He will NEVER leave you, or forsake you.

You must remember, it's not what you have lost, it's everything you have left that counts.


If you are experiencing secondary stress, trauma, or anxiety

because of changes in your warriors  personality or behavior,

because of everything and everyone you care for, 

or because you have entered into the sacred role of a caregiver to a wounded combat veteran,

we are here to support you.

Your peace, strength, wholeness, healing and well-being are crucial.


Your loved one may still be in a dark place with thier memories, feelings, and emotions

and they might not be able to tell you right now..

but they are depending and counting on your love, patience, faithfulness, and your support

more than you will ever know -- even when they push you out.

The isolating, withdrawl, and shutting down just might be their way of sparing you the details,

of trying to protect you from what they are living with.

Don't misread their silence. 

They need you now more than ever before.

But that doesn't mean that it's okay to take it all out on you, or to take you for granted.

You deserve respect.

Being married to a warrior can be tough.

So set your boundaries and walk in love.
Get the rest, nutrition, exercise, and healthy social contacts you need.

Grow your relationship with the Lord through prayer, bible reading, and worship music.


Above all, don't become discouraged.


This too shall pass.

Stay strong. Keep the faith.

God is bigger than this problem.

Trust Him with the hard stuff.